Easy technique for engineering love
I can easily manipulate myself into loving a certain woman, and I have a good success rate influencing a woman's feelings.
This sounds dishonest and even outright dangerous.
But the technique is so simple that this simplicity by itself negates its classification as dangerous.
All you do is talk and listen. Talk about your own past relationships to foster love in a woman, and listen to her share stories of her past relationships.
These stories of a partner's past relationships will resound in a person's mind. They will create background imagery and make the listener compare themselves to the sexual partners in the stories they hear.
This, in turn, will result in feelings of jealousy and a sense of defeat. If we constantly imagine our partner in a sexual relationship with another person, we will fear losing them and interpret this longing as love.
This is quite similar to the jealousy we feel when a current sexual partner is unfaithful or has an ongoing affair.
But the jealousy accompanying a partner's infidelity is much stronger than the thoughts of a previous sexual relationship.
And there is one great difference: if a current sexual partner has a parallel relationship, we usually think of breaking up and getting out. This is, I think, a normal self-defense reaction.
But discussions of past relationships usually do not contain this component. There isn’t really anything we can blame the partner for. A past relationship happened before the current partner knew us or loved us. In the context of most cultures, there is no guilt.