It is in the sexual interest of women who organize in solidarity organizations to create a social climate in which men do not attach much sexual market value to virginity.
A corresponding public opinion is widespread in the West. A preference for virgins is often associated with "dirty old men," and men who are well assimilated to public opinion typically profess not to be interested in virgins.
Why? I assume that being a woman's first man has its own specific charm.
Could it be that common Western legislation, which does not prosecute close-in-age sexual conduct but punishes it when the man is significantly older, is a strategy by women's solidarity organizations aiming to restrict sexual opportunities for older men?
Asia did not go through the Western sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s. Asian men have always cherished a woman's virginity, not only culturally but also individually, especially when a man has the opportunity to be a young woman's first partner. The downside is that even though many Asian men cherish a young woman's virginity, they are often not sexually literate enough to make her sexual initiation an optimal experience for both.
In the West, wild rumors circulate regarding why Asian men have a preference for virgins. I have seen newspaper reports claiming that Asian men believe sex with virgins cures venereal diseases. But this is an urban legend, born from a Western, quite possibly feminist, desire to make men with a preference for virgins appear detestable. It is an urban legend based on much older tales. I know of a comparative claim regarding the behavior of Spanish conquistadors in South America some 500 years ago. They allegedly had sex with native virgins to cure themselves of syphilis.
I do not know whether that specific claim is true or not. But it sounds detestable. Dirty Western conquistadors with syphilis willfully infecting local virgins in foreign lands in an attempt to pass on the bug (and in this case: not the buck).
It sounds detestable especially to those who lack knowledge of one important historical aspect. Syphilis is widely believed to have been endemic in the Americas before the Spanish arrived. While the local population was not immune and suffered greatly from the disease, the conquistadors contracted it and brought it back to Europe. In Europe, where the population had no prior exposure or communal history of syphilis, the disease was extremely virulent—much more so than it is nowadays—causing severe illness, pain, and death, and contributing to the sexual counter-revolution that marked the end of the Renaissance.
So much for urban legends.
But Asian men do not have a preference for virgins because it would be a medical treatment. They may claim that having sex with virgins is invigorating, and they are right in this, but they really just understand this as a psychological effect, and again, they are right in this.
To be a young woman's first partner can be a delightful experience indeed, and it is a mistake not to value and cherish it.
To enjoy being a young woman's first partner, one should have patience, lots of patience. What a waste to get it over with in 15 minutes. Such a rushed first penetrative experience will only be painful for the woman, and the man wastes an extraordinary source of delight.
Being a young woman's first partner should unfold over several days. It should be done step by step. A young woman who has never been touched by a man will first have to learn how good it feels to be embraced and kissed in the right places. She should experience an orgasm before her first penetration.
A man who guides a virgin to her first sexual arousal and her first orgasm will himself feel a high degree of a very special sexual excitement that is not otherwise obtainable. And it is often considered more fulfilling than the physical act of penetration alone.
This, anyway, should only happen after several sexual encounters in which the woman achieves orgasm. Only then will she be physically ready. She will be aware of what sexual excitement is all about, and her body will naturally expand and lubricate to a suitable degree.
If first penetrative intercourse happens under these conditions, it can be almost painless, and there is practically no bleeding. I suspect that defloration bleeding often doesn't occur because of the breaking of the hymen, but because a sexually illiterate young man without the necessary patience performs intercourse with a woman who is absolutely not ready because she is not aroused. I assume that then, the bleeding is not from the broken hymen but from the tearing of the vaginal walls, which have not been given the opportunity to naturally expand and lubricate through sexual arousal.
The hymen is but a very thin mucosal fold with minimal blood supply. Its breakage could not cause the heavy hemorrhage that would be necessary to stain bed sheets.
Young men are almost always worse lovers than older men, and I think that young women should regard it as a blessing if their first partner is a sexually literate, experienced lover.
Experienced men will also have a much better capability to enjoy the extraordinary opportunity. As explained above, most of the enjoyment is psychological in nature. When a young woman is guided knowledgeably through her first sexual experience, she will be hugely excited, too. A whole new world opens itself to her. And this excitement is infectious in the best sense of the word. A man who is literate enough to participate in the young woman's excitement will not need much physical movement to achieve memorable climaxes himself.
Being a young woman's first partner provides a huge opportunity to shape her sexual taste in accordance with the preferences of the man. Often, when I am with a young woman who had her first sexual experience with another man, or has had several other partners, I am truly surprised how limited her repertoire is for doing things that feel good. In some Asian countries, standard sexual encounters really consist of nothing else but penetration. It is over for the man in ten minutes or less, and it is not much pleasure for the woman at all.
Some of these young women can enjoy the difference, but others have already been socially conditioned into believing that sex is just for men, and that many of the most satisfying practices are unhygienic or unnatural. (In some Asian countries, women who have had good European or American lovers are usually very definite in their preference for a non-Asian boyfriend or husband.)
But while the psychological pleasure of being a young woman's first partner is the bulk of the reward, there is, too, a distinct physical quality to it. The physical sensation of intimacy with a young woman who has not previously had penetrative intercourse is distinct from that of a woman who has had prior experience, whose body may adapt more quickly to penetration, making it painless for her but potentially reducing physical friction for the man.
No, it is not my intention to degrade women who are not virgins. But sex with a virgin is another quality, a quality that I remember longer and which, funny as it sounds, causes even in me a psychological bonding that can be the basis for a relationship that lasts much longer than it otherwise would.
I cherish virgins, and if I can have a sexual relationship with one, I would happily let other men have 10 divorced women or 1,000 sex workers.