Many women, and some men, believe that women's needs and sexuality are more complex than those of men. Furthermore, many men may not fully understand how women feel.
Men are, on average, physically stronger, and can sometimes exhibit aggression. Men may not fully understand us, and we seldom tell them how we feel, because we have learned throughout history that revealing our sexuality can sometimes be risky. Historically, in many societies, women have had good reason to conceal their sexual desires and refrain from pursuing the sexual fulfillment they imagine.
Some modern societies are more progressive than traditional ones, as they generally do not impose cruel punishments for premarital sex or extramarital relationships.
Obviously, even though many men may not realize it, women have sexual desires, and most of us enjoy sex a great deal. We experience orgasms, primarily clitoral, but we also enjoy penetration. We do not necessarily enjoy penetration solely because it leads to an orgasm; while the two can be related, we can enjoy both independently. However, we often do not express this to men because it can jeopardize our reputation. Historically, a woman's reputation has been perceived as better the less sexually interested she appears. In some traditional societies, this remains essential, and even in many modern societies, it can be advantageous.
In many contexts, a woman's perceived sexual market value depends heavily on appearing sexually inactive and uninterested. This perceived value is extremely important to us, as so much social and economic capital depends on it.
Of course, we need more than just sexual excitement; we also need shelter and protection. In many traditional societies, including conservative Islamic communities or traditional Indian cultures (see related YouTube video here), women have been socialized to keep their sexuality entirely private.
There are other societal contexts, such as affluent Western societies and less affluent Westernized societies. In both, women are generally not punished outright for their sexuality.
However, the lack of social penalties for male infidelity can conflict with women's non-sexual needs, as many women desire a faithful partner.
Our needs are not solely sexual; we also have emotional and romantic needs. We want a reliable partner at our side—a family-oriented man who can provide a safe harbor in a challenging world, and who is present while we raise our children. Naturally, we do not want a partner who is unfaithful, especially with younger women, as this increases the risk of abandonment.
It is not easy to be a woman, as there are too many different aspects and conflicting needs to navigate.
Evaluating all possibilities, women may find greater advantages in affluent Western countries. We are generally better protected by the law, rates of interpersonal violence are statistically lower, and men in these societies often demonstrate a greater acceptance of female sexuality.
For some women from traditional North African, Middle Eastern, and South Asian societies, finding a Western husband or relocating to an affluent Western country is seen as desirable. It offers greater freedom and the opportunity to pursue personal and sexual goals, especially when separated from traditional familial constraints.
But how can this be achieved? There are challenges regarding citizenship and the cost of living. A financially stable Western husband is often viewed as an ideal solution: someone who is sufficiently intelligent and wealthy, without being overly dominant or unattainable.
Adaptation to affluent Western countries may be easier for those coming from less affluent Westernized regions, such as parts of Latin America, Sub-Saharan Africa, or East and Southeast Asia. The primary objective is to establish a firm foothold in an affluent Western society. Once established, the rules of that society apply, and they are generally much more favorable to women.